The workplace is a game, a game with rules, winners and losers; as competitive and professional players, executives don’t come together to have a good time, they want to win.
Think about how you were raised, what values did your family and teachers instill in you? If you are dissatisfied with your career, chances are you carry too many disruptive values.
As you learn how to play the Game of Success and develop a Work Persona , you will repeatedly ask yourself “but I am not like that”. And you are right, you are not the non-caring, take no prisoners, have no rules to obey executive. Because if it were that easy, all you had to do is drop your values and move into the corner office.
Emotional intelligence is very important, it is the astounding ability to combine your core values with what’s required to succeed.
A powerful exercise is to take your Work Persona and live it out after hours. Take it to your best friend, your spouse, your sports buddies. They will notice you are different, so ask them for feedback: “Am I still me, in what ways am I different, what do you like about this person, does it upset you?
If you engage a career coach, observations from your colleagues (up, down and sideways the corporate structure), your friends and families and last but not least people you have trouble with, are at the core of defining who you are in the eyes of the world. This is very different from exploring who you want to be and what motivates you (aka the Kick Factor). If you want to be a successful player in the game of Career, the sport you have chosen determines the rules, the umpires are your colleagues and the corner office is the World Cup.
It’s simple but not easy- You can be successful without losing yourself on the way.