CAREER COACHING & LEARNING TO PLAY THE GAME

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   “I am so amazed to realize how little I understand this game I have been playing all my life.” Mickey Mantle

The workplace is a game, a game with rules, winners and losers; as competitive and professional players, executives don’t come together to have a good time, they want to win.

Think about how you were raised, what values did your family and teachers instill in you? If you are dissatisfied with your career, chances are you carry too many disruptive values.

As you learn how to play the Game of Success and develop a Work Persona , you will repeatedly ask yourself “but I am not like that”. And you are right, you are not the non-caring, take no prisoners, have no rules to obey executive. Because if it were that easy, all you had to do is drop your values and move into the corner office.

Emotional intelligence is very important, it is the astounding ability to combine your core values with what’s required to succeed.

A powerful exercise is to take your Work Persona and live it out after hours. Take it to your best friend, your spouse, your sports buddies. They will notice you are different, so ask them for feedback: “Am I still me, in what ways am I different, what do you like about this person, does it upset you?

If you engage a career coach, observations from your colleagues (up, down and sideways the corporate structure), your friends and families and last but not least people you have trouble with, are at the core of defining who you are in the eyes of the world. This is very different from exploring who you want to be and what motivates you (aka the Kick Factor). If you want to be a successful player in the game of Career, the sport you have chosen determines the rules, the umpires are your colleagues and the corner office is the World Cup.
It’s simple but not easy- You can be successful without losing yourself on the way.

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FUN & YOURSELF

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 “Life must be lived as play” – Plato.

In my house, we often use funny expressions to make light of a serious situation. But there is actually a deeper meaning to it – what if life is play and we can laugh about our mishaps?

Here are some of my favorite terms:
“Going to school” – going to work
“Fight in the sandbox” – a professional meeting where people behave irrationally
“Skipping school” – taking a long lunch break
“Summer break” – going on vacation
“Getting a bad grade” – argument with the boss
“Grown ups” – people who are too serious

What does it mean? As young children, we had a clear instinct, strong likes and dislikes – think about kids as picky eaters, no social pressure could make you eat brussels sprouts. Play was our way to grow but only if we had fun! Somewhere along the path to adulthood, we lose our in-born ability to trust our instincts, to believe in the good. No longer do we believe that we will be president or at least rich and famous. But worst of all: we stop having fun.

If I ask you right now to “describe to me when and where you are happy, giddy with laughter and 100% living in the moment?” What would you say?

SUCCESS & THE KICK FACTOR

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 Coaching is about you as a whole person: your values, goals, work, balance, fulfillment, and life purpose.

I work with individuals to develop their own definition of success. Most clients want to achieve specific goals so they can lead a more fulfilling life. Sounds pretty straightforward – you know what you want. Do you wonder why you don’t already have what you want? What’s stopping you from getting it? Ah, it’s not so easy after all (disclaimer: this is my brother’s favorite comment).

The difference between trailing steps behind your goals and grabbing them with both hands is Values. Your very own values, understanding them, diving deep into them and aligning your goals with your true values. When we work with values amazing things happen. And it becomes easy after all – if you love it you will do it, commonly called motivation I like to call it the kick-factor. Curious to learn more?

CONNECTIONS & BEING AN EXPAT

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Moving to a new country and working in a foreign culture poses many challenges. After the initial mad rush of moving and settling in is over, most expats start to feel the full weight of their foreign surroundings. This is a very good time to start working with a coach.

A coach allows you to embrace the challenges of this transition, will guide you in setting goals and expectations to put your expat life into a workable frame. What are the career issues, how to manage a demanding workload, where to focus and often more important, how to connect with a new group of peers and direct reports? Understanding and becoming comfortable in a foreign business culture requires much more than sitting through a day of orientation back in your home country. With your coach, you can understand the wide spectrum of challenges and bring order to the chaos of early expat days.

Spouses also benefit from a having a personal coach, while there are lots of diversions in a new city; often a sense of being lost and not connected sets in.

The typical expat cycle has a rather brief period of calm, commencing 3-6 months after settling in; life starts to feel normal, routines develop and a strange country is now home. While work is probably still crazy, your personal life might now be most exciting – meeting new people, traveling in the region, and a big sense of accomplishment of having made it across the ocean.

Much too soon, in the 2nd half of the expat assignments, worries about finding and choosing your next assignment creep up. Heading home after a few years abroad, or deciding where to go next, is often a bigger challenge than settling in. It requires you to make life changing decisions – which country will you live in, what does it mean for your career, how will it effect your family? As a coach, I can bring clarity to uncertainty and competing choices.

The Blank Canvass
One of the most exciting opportunities of being an Expat is to have a blank canvass for your life, your career – yourself.

Whether you are on a fast track career that requires you to move overseas, or you are following your spouse and settle for what is possible in this foreign country, you will leave the routines and responsibilities of your home country behind.

For me, the lure of a blank canvass was what made me leave my perfect life in California and start over in crazy, noisy, often confusing and yet ever so charming India. I love every day of it, but also think about the people I left behind, my close friends, my neighbors in a tight knit community and separating my children from the only home they knew. As I connect with my lovely new friends in India and discover a deep friendship with people who grew up on the other side of the globe, I am keenly aware of how important connections are.

Connections
– The people you leave behind in your home country. How do we stay connected, how do you deal with moving away from your parents/ siblings?
– The people you meet in your new life. Expats turn over quickly; locals may be difficult to connect with, which connections matter?
– Your family’s expat experience will be completely different from your own, simply because each one of them is dealing with their own, unique set of expectations, challenges and goals.

Expat connections are like speed dating – you better get to the bottom quickly.